No matter how naturally talkative your child is, it seems the older they get the less they share… with their parents, that is. It used to be that every day was an adventure they couldn’t wait to tell you all about when they got jumped in the car after school.
But now, you’re met with the all-encompassing “good” when asked how their day was. The problem isn’t with your child and their ability to pour their heart out to you or their lack of desire to share. It’s all about having the right questions to ask kids.
Asking the right questions is one of the most powerful positive parenting tools we have as moms. In fact, if we spent more time asking questions instead of lecturing and telling our kids how they need to think and behave we’d learn so much about our kids.
Here are 7 tips to help you ask questions in the most effective way.
Fun Questions to Ask Kids
Kids, and especially teenagers, require you to find the combination of words asked in just the right way to get your kids to open up and share their hearts. It’s sometimes like completing a riddle at the end of a level in a video game.
I’m not sure why this is the case, but it seems to be so for most parents. And if it isn’t, you’ve probably already cracked the code!
Here are some fun questions to get to know your kids at different times of the day. For example, after school, after they attend a party or sleepover or a play date, after church service, and just plain fun questions to ask anytime to get the conversation flowing and get to know your child’s heart!
You’d be surprised how many things can happen in a day and our children don’t always know how to communicate their fears, their victories, and their questions. That’s why these questions are super helpful!
I’ve categorized them in sections so you can easily refer to them again and again!
You’ll be surprised how easily these questions will get the conversation going and how quickly you’ll get to know your growing child. Have fun!
Questions to Get Kids Talking About School
1. Tell me one thing that made you feel smart?
2. What was a food you wanted to trade at lunch today?
3. What was something that happened today that made you feel scared or alone?
4. How did you help someone today?
5. What was the funniest part of your day?
6. What new fact did you learn today?
7. What challenged you at school today?
8. If you could be the teacher tomorrow, how would you do things?
9. Does anyone in your class have a hard time following the rules?
10. What was something you did today that made you feel brave?
11. Who do you want to make friends with that you haven’t already?
12. What subject is the hardest for you?
13. What subject is the easiest for you?
14. If you could stop doing anything in your school day, what would it be?
15. If you could add anything to your school day, what would it be?
16. Are there times in your when you feel left out?
17. Do you ever feel like someone at school is a bully to you or anyone else?
18. What is the most popular thing to do at recess?
19. How would you rate your day on a scale of 1 to 10? Why?
20. If anyone in the world could be your teacher for a day who would it be?
Questions to Ask Kids After a Play Date
21. What was the most fun thing you did at the party/sleepover/play date?
22. What was something you did that was helpful?
23. What did you eat for lunch/lunch/snack?
24. If there were ever a zombie apocalypse, which one of your friends would survive?
25. What was the funniest thing that happened?
26. Was there ever a time when you felt afraid or alone?
27. Did anyone upset you? How?
28. If you could have your own party, who would you invite?
29. Were they kids at the party who you aren’t friends with?
30. Did you meet a new friend?
Questions to Ask After Church Service
31. What was the silliest thing that happened at church?
32. Was there anyone who came to service for the first time?
33. How did you make that person feel welcome?
34. What was something you learned for the first time?
35. Do you remember the memory verse, and what does it mean to you?
36. Did you make a new friend today? What was their name?
37. If you could teach your service next Sunday, how would you do it?
38. What will you do differently after today?
39. What’s one thing I can help you remember or talk more about this week?
40. What’s one thing that made sense to you today about God/bible/church?
Questions to Simply Get to Know Them
41. If you could create a new planet what would you name it, and what would it be like?
42. If you could change your name, what would you name yourself? Why?
43. If you were given a million dollars and had to spend it all in one week, what would you buy?
44. What’s your favorite thing to daydream about?
45. What’s your biggest dream that you wish would come true?
46. What have your friends been up to lately?
47. How do you show people you care about them?
48. What does it mean to show love?
49. What is one place you want to travel to one day?
50. If you could change anything about your family what would it be?
51. If you could change anything about your life what would it be?
52. If you could change any of rules of this world which ones would you change?
53. Where would you want to go on vacation if we could leave right now?
54. If you could create a new Crayola color, what would if look like and what would you name it?
55. What’s the best book you’ve ever read?
56. If you had your own motto, what would it be?
57. If you could have dinner with anyone who would it be?
58. If you could go on vacation anywhere, where would you go?
59. If you could live on your own private island but could only take 5 things, what would they be?
60. Describe the house you want to live in when you’re a grown-up.
Would You Rather Questions for Kids
61. Would you rather get a job as a kid or go to school for entire adult life?
63. Would you rather live in an underwater world or in space?
64. Would you rather have super strength or super intelligence?
65. Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?
66. Would you rather live in a treehouse or in a cabin in the woods?
67. Would you rather have a pet unicorn or a pet dragon?
68. Would you rather be super rich or all powerful?
69. Would you rather be a hawk or a shark?
70. Would you rather live in a treehouse or a houseboat?
71. Would you rather have the power to breathe underwater or talk to animals?
72. Would you rather have the power to move things with your mind or walk through doors without opening them?
73. Would you rather be able to hear someone’s thoughts or see the future?
74. Would you rather be able to fast forward time or freeze time?
75. Would you rather be as powerful as a lion or as tricky as a fox?
76. Would you rather be magical like Harry Potter or be able to fight like Percy Jackson?
77. Would you rather have powers like Thor or money and smarts like Tony Stark?
78. Would you rather never watch Youtube or never play video games again?
79. Would you rather only eat your favorite food for the rest of your life or never eat your favorite food ever again?
80. Would you rather be able to fast forward time or freeze time?
Do you have some favorite questions to ask your kids to get them to open up? Please share them in the comments below!
Brandi dove headfirst into the passionate world of blogging over 7 years ago when she felt inspired to launch FamilyFelicity in 2017. The name Felicity means great happiness and the joys of heaven, which speaks to her vision for the families she desired to impact with this blog over the years. In 2023, she knew it was time to pass the reigns to another passionate mama to continue the work. Brandi is now helping women thrive in their businesses as a copywriter and branding strategist in her new endeavor Thrive Content Creative. She is thrilled to leave FamilyFelicity in the most capable hands and heart. Thank you DayJah!