Becoming a mother is probably one of the most transforming seasons of a woman’s life. It comes with it insecurities about whether we’ll ever be good enough, the judgments and opinions of everyone around us, and the daring responsibility of caring for another life.
It also brings the unrelenting love and bond of a sweet blessing that no words could adequately describe.
Motherhood is full of amazing surprises and devastating valleys but one thing is true… motherhood is a privilege. And certainly a title we should be grateful for.
These TED Talks are powerful and will empower you in your best role as a mom. Watch these and be reassured that you already are a wonderful mom right now!
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Every single mother is struggling with guilt and so many are hiding behind a mask. A mask that says, “I’m fine” even when we’re clearly not. Even when they’re struggling.
The truth is, we’re all competing with ourselves and our own unrealistic expectations. It’s time to remove the false mask we’ve been wearing and love ourselves enough to admit that motherhood is hard and that’s ok.
We should put more energy into supporting each other instead of shaming and judging other moms and ourselves.
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Overcoming the loneliness and overwhelm in motherhood
So many moms are still struggling with the overwhelming demands of being a mom and have no idea how lonely they really are.
We feel the pressure to be perfect and do it all “well” but fail to realize we don’t have to do it all on our own. We need our community. We need friends and support and the need to be connected.
It’s not good for our own emotional well being to continue going through the motions of work life and mom life without quality connections with friendships with other women and moms.
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Why we need to ignore the judgments of others and mom shamers
Being a mom is really hard because we are judged and even shamed for every decision we make. The looks and stares we get when we choose to breastfeed in public. Or the looks we get from other moms when we shake up a bottle of formula for our new baby.
Motherhood gets a little easier when we decide to ditch the mom guilt and raise our children in the best way we know how. When we decide to be confident in our own parenting choices and support the other moms in our lives.
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A new way we should be thinking about the transition to motherhood
When a woman gets pregnant, she goes on a massive roller coaster of emotions, hormonal changes, and fear we’ve only encountered since puberty.
If you’ve ever struggled with not feeling adequate as a mom you need to watch this talk. You and I are not alone and are navigating a totally normal phase of life for us as women.
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Parenting rooted in kindness versus the expectations we create for our kids
We all have expectations on how our children should look and behave. Many of these expectations are actually fueled by the expectations of others and society.
We can instead, choose to raise our kids through kindness and compassion and build a solid relationship and lasting memories with our amazing children.
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Here’s our permission to stop overparenting our kids
We all love our kids and want to help them achieve their best in life. But in all our effort, we can inadvertently hurt their ability to develop self-efficacy. And the good news is, our child’s success in life is not our job alone.
So the pressure’s off! Motherhood just got easier.
Children desperately need us to be there for them but not to make every decision in their life. We are there to inspire them to discover and follow their own unique path.
This is one of my favorite parenting-related TED Talks. You’ll feel relieved after watching this.
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A moving tribute to a mom’s greatest gift – mother’s intuition
I personally have experienced countless moments of mother’s intuition. I remember when my son was just three days old and we had been discharged from the hospital.
When we got home, I noticed that his eyes had a yellow tint and so did his skin. I called the pediatrician right away and was told that he didn’t appear to be Jaundiced in the hospital so it was likely nothing.
I felt led strongly to take him to the ER anyway. Even as we were being checked in, the nurses commented that he didn’t appear Jaundiced either. But I persisted that he be seen by a Doctor.
Once he was seen, the doctor also agreed that he had minimal yellowing but took his blood anyway. When the results came back, his levels were dangerously high and he was immediately rushed upstairs to be admitted.
We had to stay in the hospital for four more days. It was scary but I’m so thankful that God has given parents a special intuition to know when we should push a little further. It’s a gift!
This mother’s own story is a beautiful tribute to the divine workings of a loving God working in and through our lives as mothers.
These TED Talks are so encouraging and are proof that we are all in this together. That your struggles are likely my struggles too.
Share in the comments below which talk meant the most to you as a mom!
Brandi dove headfirst into the passionate world of blogging over 7 years ago when she felt inspired to launch FamilyFelicity in 2017. The name Felicity means great happiness and the joys of heaven, which speaks to her vision for the families she desired to impact with this blog over the years. In 2023, she knew it was time to pass the reigns to another passionate mama to continue the work. Brandi is now helping women thrive in their businesses as a copywriter and branding strategist in her new endeavor Thrive Content Creative. She is thrilled to leave FamilyFelicity in the most capable hands and heart. Thank you DayJah!